Directing is definitely a rewarding experience but, sometimes it's not always the easiest thing to do. Between the hotel bills, recruiting contestants, and all of your other responsibilities, you're bound to be on edge about something, right? Well some other directors and I have similar pet peeves.Pet Peeve #1: Requests for a steep discount because you just finished competing in Miss “So and So” the previous weekend and now money is tight. Simply put, directors cannot sympathize with situations like this. The main reason being is that we, too, have a pageant to run and there are expenses to uphold to ensure a great experience for the contestants. Use your best judgment in how many pageants you truly can afford to participate in. If you can swing a pageant every week, go for it, but expect to pay the set pageant fees like everyone else. And if you can’t afford it, no hard feelings. We wish you well and hope to see you on our stage in the near future. Pet Peeve #2: Contestants (and their moms) who don’t win the crown, and take to Facebook for a little therapy session. We get it….things did not swing your way. But you know what? Life goes on. Take what you learned from the experience and use it to make the next one even better. A fellow pageant director (who asked to remain unnamed) chimed in with this lovely, little story: “I had a beautiful teen contestant in my state pageant who placed 1st runner up. Shortly after, she blasted me, the judges, and the pageant name all over Facebook. That made for an interesting panel interview when I was a judge at her Miss Outstanding Teen local a month later.” Pet Peeve #3: Pageant queens gone wild! This one is pretty self-explanatory. If you win a title, you are obligated to spend the next year acting in appropriate manner and upholding the image of the pageant you won. So please refrain from taking “selfies” at the club while downing a shot. Not a good look for you or the pageant name!
Queens that have not gone wild, AKA the good onesPet Peeve #4: Asking the director (or pageant staff member) what you did wrong after the pageant is over. This one genuinely breaks my heart. If you gave it your best shot on that stage, then you did NOTHING wrong. My advice, as a director, is to gather all of the evidence (scores, comments, pageant DVD, photos) to see how you might improve for the next pageant you join. You’re awesome and you can only get better! Pet Peeve #5: Pageant moms or coaches who stand directly behind the judges to do over the top movements to remind the girl on stage to smile. This type of behavior is seen at glitz pageants often…and that’s expected. But, when competing in interview-style pageants like Miss American Coed, ANTSO, and USA Ambassador, it’s just not necessary. Natural pageants like these want the contestants to be…well, natural! (Go figure!) So take a seat and let the girl do her thing. If she’s practiced hard enough, she’ll look like a pro as soon as the spotlight hits her. No reminders needed. Director friends, keep the emails and messages coming! I’m happy to share your thoughts and concerns with the pageant community.
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